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A spark of ambition in a world too content

Everybody has a dream–something they aspire to achieve–whether it’s to travel the world before the age of 40 or to write a novel.

While we all have this in common, only a handful of us ever make these dreams of ours a reality. We put effort into painting the pictures in our heads, but when it comes down to putting in the actual effort, the real effort, most of us take a step back. Maybe we’re afraid that if we do make our dream happen, it won’t live up to what it was in our heads.

Maybe we are just afraid to fail. Maybe that fear alone is enough to keep us content looking at that pretty picture that hangs only in your head.

I’m guilty of that.

Coulda, shoulda, woulda. That’s my mentality most of the time. It’s so easy to think that way when most of the people around me have a similar mentality. We sit around talking about what we will one day do with our lives, but we don’t make strides toward making those things happen.

This could (and would) be misconstrued as the norm–something everyone in the world feels/thinks/does, too– except it’s not, and I’m reminded of that when I meet inspiring people or reconnect with some of my overly ambitious friends.

A particularly driven friend of mine I’ve known since 6th grade. She works in retail, as well as a dancer, and does photography, choreography, video directing/producing on the side. She is the most ambitious person I know. She constantly wants to better herself and continue improving and learning.

Having people in my life like that provides me with little reminders that I too can make my dreams happen. Everyone can. We just need to be willing to go for it! We shouldn’t just settle for ‘content.’ We should push ourselves to attain what we really want.

First step? Declaring what you really want.

I’m starting small but here are the things I will cross off my fairly simple yet personally daunting mental to-do list:

  • Pick a direction for this blog and stick with it
  • Start a podcast
  • Start working on story ideas

 

 

 

 

 

Things You Realize Your Last Year of College

If you’re like me, the fastest four years of your life are about to be over.

You learn a lot throughout college, and here are just a few things you realize before you throw on your cap and grown.

You’ve Grown A Lot

Only when I look back at pictures from freshman year do I realize how much I’ve changed. From my hair to my clothes to the way I see the world–it’s all different, but in a good way. You learn from experiences that you can only have in college. Like that McDonalds at 3 a.m. after a night of drinking is just perfection. Or that maybe you like a certain type of food that you swore you’d never try. Or that you aren’t as weird as you thought you were, because you’ve found a group of people just as wacky as you are! You are wiser than you were when you first stepped into college, and that is something to be proud of.

You Can’t Please Everyone

When I was in high school, I had no enemies. I liked to think I was cool with everyone and no one had any real problems with me. I’m not saying that people dislike me now, but I learned that people will think what they want to think, and that isn’t your problem. All you can do is make the effort to be nice to people. What they do with your kindness is up to them. Everyone is different.

Make Your Own Decisions

I’m gonna sound like a mom, but just because everyone else is doing something, doesn’t make it cool. We all think our friends are smart, but they are just people, and people make mistakes and do stupid things sometimes. Think for yourself and make your own decisions.

InDEPENDENCE

Just because you are away at school, does not make you Miss/Mr. Independent. Before Miss Independent could walk strong and tall in her high heels, she fell down a lot and leaned on friends and family to help her back up. It’s called growing. Never be too ashamed to ask for help.

Take Care of Yourself First

Always. Don’t let people push you around or make you feel small. If you are around people who don’t make you feel respected, get new people, because those will only bring you down. You are the most important person in your life, and you deserve to be happy.

There are More Important Things Happening in the World

As a college kid, you may think that your college campus is the world. Because us college kids can’t really see beyond our little college bubble. You may think that getting an F on an essay or that fight with your roommate are the worst things in the world, but they’re not. Outside of this snow globe we call college, there is a real world. In that real world, big and important things that affect our lives are happening. You’ll get over that F and you and your roommate will make up, so don’t stress the small stuff and don’t forget how big the world is and how small we are.