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A spark of ambition in a world too content

Everybody has a dream–something they aspire to achieve–whether it’s to travel the world before the age of 40 or to write a novel.

While we all have this in common, only a handful of us ever make these dreams of ours a reality. We put effort into painting the pictures in our heads, but when it comes down to putting in the actual effort, the real effort, most of us take a step back. Maybe we’re afraid that if we do make our dream happen, it won’t live up to what it was in our heads.

Maybe we are just afraid to fail. Maybe that fear alone is enough to keep us content looking at that pretty picture that hangs only in your head.

I’m guilty of that.

Coulda, shoulda, woulda. That’s my mentality most of the time. It’s so easy to think that way when most of the people around me have a similar mentality. We sit around talking about what we will one day do with our lives, but we don’t make strides toward making those things happen.

This could (and would) be misconstrued as the norm–something everyone in the world feels/thinks/does, too– except it’s not, and I’m reminded of that when I meet inspiring people or reconnect with some of my overly ambitious friends.

A particularly driven friend of mine I’ve known since 6th grade. She works in retail, as well as a dancer, and does photography, choreography, video directing/producing on the side. She is the most ambitious person I know. She constantly wants to better herself and continue improving and learning.

Having people in my life like that provides me with little reminders that I too can make my dreams happen. Everyone can. We just need to be willing to go for it! We shouldn’t just settle for ‘content.’ We should push ourselves to attain what we really want.

First step? Declaring what you really want.

I’m starting small but here are the things I will cross off my fairly simple yet personally daunting mental to-do list:

  • Pick a direction for this blog and stick with it
  • Start a podcast
  • Start working on story ideas

 

 

 

 

 

Being a Woman in 2015: This is NOT a Post About Feminism

Is it me or has the word ‘feminist’ gotten a bad rep recently?

I don’t want that to come off the wrong way; I’m a woman so of course I want equal everything, too.

It just seems like the word ‘feminist’ has lost its meaning , and the image of the feminist is skewed.

According to Webster’s, ‘Feminism’ is:

  1. the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
  2. organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests

But if you ask the Internet what a feminist is, a majority of the responses you’d get (mostly from men, I’m sure) would be “ugly women who like to bitch and complain about men.’

The truth is that, as women, we have something to complain about.

I often come across men who make my skin crawl and make me wonder why I share the same air as them.

I’ve been cat called. I’ve been whistled at. I’ve been approached in public. Just for being a woman who happens to be walking alone.

I’ve been scared.

Scared to say how I really feel in those moments, which is usually ‘leave the fuck alone.’

But instead of saying that, I usually don’t say anything because if I do, who knows that will happen?

Too often women are made out to be bitches just because we do not want to encourage men’s ‘flirty’ behavior i.e. them telling us to smile more, or even going so far as to cat call or whistle at us from a moving car. It’s not welcomed.  Yet, even though this seems like an obviously trivial concept to grasp, women are living in fear that these men, who can’t handle the fact that a woman has an opinion to express that (GOD FORBID) could be about the way we are treated by them, will retaliate.

I stumbled across this awesome post today on Medium.com written by a woman who took to Twitter with a selfie that said ‘FUCK YOU IF YOU TELL A WOMAN TO SMILE’ after being approached by some creep, only to be harassed and called awful names by a bunch of trolls. Definitely check it out here. It’s powerful stuff.

It really is unfair that we live in a world like this, where women have to watch what they say or do, or don’t say and don’t do, because even when we do nothing, like sit by ourselves and mind our own business, we are bitches.

Digital Cameras vs Smartphones

Do you ever see someone sporting around a huge, fancy camera and think to yourself “yeah cool, but can you send text messages from it?”

Remember when cellphones made phone calls and cameras took pictures? When people brought the good ol’ point-and-shoot cameras to parties, weddings, BBQs, etc and Ashton Kutcher was advertising Nikon commercials.

Speaking from personal experience, I’d say the official cell phone/digital camera merger happened in 2008, or at least that’s when I migrated to a fully functional smartphone and the last time I touched my digital camera. But as much as I rely on my smartphone to do, well, everything, I can’t help but wish it was less convenient.

Growing up, I was always the one taking pictures on my digital camera. Every holiday, you would find me snapping shots of my family, the food, trying to capture the atmosphere. Now during the holidays, everyone is hovering their phones over their meals and sticking them in people’s faces so they can quickly upload and share how #blessed they are.

The age of digital camera was a good one. Photos were raw, more candid, with no filters to scroll through, no clever caption to think up, and no pressure to even share the photo on social media at that very second. Selfies didn’t have such a negative stigma to them either, despite some front-facing cameras popping up.

One of the things I loved the most about digital cameras was that I always printed the pictures I took. I’d take a trip to the CVS, plug my camera’s chip into the printing machine and a few minutes later, I’d have glossy prints of my memories that I could hang up on my wall, put in a frame, or in a photo album.

At events, I’m still the one who takes pictures of everything, but it’s always on my phone and I hardly print anymore. I’m changing that, though!

I’m going to start printing photos again. I’ve always loved being surrounded by pictures of people. Every photo has a story.

 

Netflix: the glue in a millennial society

I finally feel like a normal 23-year-old girl/woman/thing.

For what feels like years, I’ve been missing out on what used to be a huge phenomenon but has since become a social norm of today’s society. I would even go so far as saying this activity has the ability to potentially outcast you or help you assimilate into any environment.

I’m talking about Netflixing.

I’ve had Netflix for about six months now, and I finally understand what all the hype is about. I finally understand all the Netflix memes like this:

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I let Netflix make my decisions for me now.

And this:

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We all know this one all too well…

Andddd this:

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According to a study by NPD Group, “75% of Millennials *who own connected TVs are using them to watch over-the-top content (Netflix, YouTube, etc).”

That’s not to say that all of our routines go like this: sleep, work/school, Netflix, repeat. But the shows we spend our time watching often define us, much like a culture.

As a millennial, I’m confident in saying that while we do converse over breaking news, politics, and technology, the shows we watch are a quick segue into a more enjoyable conversation that is likely to form a bond between millennials.

How many times have you been at the water cooler at work or waiting for your class to begin and the person next to you asks if you like “Game of Thrones” or “Breaking Bad”?

It’s interesting how TV shows can provide acceptance, form friendships, create bonds, much like music does. It brings people together, and that’s powerful.

Now, if only there was a three-day Netflix festival…much like a Woodstock.

 

 

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My greatest talent and biggest fear

In elementary school, we were told that everyone has a talent–whether it’s in sports, music, or art.

I never agreed, though, because I was never good at anything. I suck at sports, I can’t play an instrument, and I draw as well a first grader.

But I think I might have discovered a new backwards talent: I am good at sucking a food shopping. No, not because I want to buy everything or I don’t know when to stop taking free samples.

I suck at food shopping because grocery stores scare me.

Let’s put it this way, I’d rather do all of my major food shopping in a 711 than step into a grocery store. Food shopping is something I need to think very long and hard about and then mentally prepare myself for. Everything about it–from the beginning to the end–makes me nervous.

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10 awesome things that happened in 2014

When the clock strikes 12 on New Year’s Day, we wave goodbye to the year that just was and wave hello to the new year that will hold our destiny for a full 365 days.

2014, you were a fantastic year. You brought so many great opportunities and events into my life. You taught me a lot, too. Some good lessons, some bad lessons, but mostly good.

Here are 10 awesome things that happened to be in 2014:

1. I went to the College Media Association.

I met so many cool people in the journalism field, including a few people from BuzzFeed who got me in contact with their copy chief. She and I met for coffee one day. She was great.

2. I graduated from college.

Never thought I’d see the day when I’d be walking across a stage, wearing a black gown and hat, to shake the hand of the dean of my college with one hand, and grab my diploma with the other. I didn’t know what was going to happen after that point. I was scared for the future. But little did I know that during my graduation ceremony I would receive a very special phone call that would lead to…

3. I got a full-time job

I literally graduated with a job, but I didn’t know that until after the ceremony when I was able to check my phone and my voice mail. I have now been with my job for almost 7 months, and while it is not where I want to be for the rest of my life, it is a good job that is giving me great experience. I am so lucky to have the position I do and to be surrounded by fantastic coworkers.

4. I went to Las Vegas

The Strip by day and the raging clubs by night–Las Vegas was amazing. The weather was perfect every day and I was actually old enough to enjoy everything that Vegas has to offer, i.e. drinking and gambling! I have a lot of family that lives in Las Vegas, so the trip was to see them, but also to celebrate my birthday.

5. I turned 22

Turning 22 in Las Vegas was so much fun. Everyone I met was very nice and generous (free drinks, haaaay). Plus, I was with my wonderful friend who took care of me while I was a hot mess.

6. My boyfriend and I celebrated a one-year anniversary

Anniversaries are very special if the person you are with is very special. I really got so lucky with my boyfriend. He tolerates me, and that’s all I could ask for!

7. I started working out more

I joined a gym a year or so ago, but I found that I was barely using it. My friend had lost a lot of weight and gotten herself in shape by doing at-home workouts and following a workout program, so I decided to give that a try. I found that I really enjoyed working out from home and trying out different workout programs, and I’ve been doing that ever since.

8. I got rid of excess baggage

By baggage, I mean people and unnecessary things. I’m at the age where I don’t need to keep people around who don’t a) make me happy, and b) don’t fit my friendship criteria.

9. I got re-reconnected with all of my hometown friends

When I moved back home after college, so did most of my friends, which was great because we were able to all hang out again. I feel like our friendships are even stronger now.

10. I made the first payment of my student loan

One month down, only 5-10 more years to go!