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Being a Woman in 2015: This is NOT a Post About Feminism

Is it me or has the word ‘feminist’ gotten a bad rep recently?

I don’t want that to come off the wrong way; I’m a woman so of course I want equal everything, too.

It just seems like the word ‘feminist’ has lost its meaning , and the image of the feminist is skewed.

According to Webster’s, ‘Feminism’ is:

  1. the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
  2. organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests

But if you ask the Internet what a feminist is, a majority of the responses you’d get (mostly from men, I’m sure) would be “ugly women who like to bitch and complain about men.’

The truth is that, as women, we have something to complain about.

I often come across men who make my skin crawl and make me wonder why I share the same air as them.

I’ve been cat called. I’ve been whistled at. I’ve been approached in public. Just for being a woman who happens to be walking alone.

I’ve been scared.

Scared to say how I really feel in those moments, which is usually ‘leave the fuck alone.’

But instead of saying that, I usually don’t say anything because if I do, who knows that will happen?

Too often women are made out to be bitches just because we do not want to encourage men’s ‘flirty’ behavior i.e. them telling us to smile more, or even going so far as to cat call or whistle at us from a moving car. It’s not welcomed.  Yet, even though this seems like an obviously trivial concept to grasp, women are living in fear that these men, who can’t handle the fact that a woman has an opinion to express that (GOD FORBID) could be about the way we are treated by them, will retaliate.

I stumbled across this awesome post today on Medium.com written by a woman who took to Twitter with a selfie that said ‘FUCK YOU IF YOU TELL A WOMAN TO SMILE’ after being approached by some creep, only to be harassed and called awful names by a bunch of trolls. Definitely check it out here. It’s powerful stuff.

It really is unfair that we live in a world like this, where women have to watch what they say or do, or don’t say and don’t do, because even when we do nothing, like sit by ourselves and mind our own business, we are bitches.

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Winter Fashion is a Myth

Two pairs of socks on. Leggings under slacks. Multiple shirts layers on top of each other, covered by a thick coat, scarf, and hat.

This is a New Jersey winter.

At least for those of us that want to stay warm.

When I was younger, I cared more about looking ‘cool’ than feeling warm. I would walk to the school bus stop on fridged January mornings with a light jacket, no gloves, no hat, no scarf, and wait for the bus.

I was freezing my ass, but at least I looked effortlessly cool. Because when you look cool, you don’t really feel the biting wind and chilling temperatures of a New Jersey winter, right?

Right! You don’t feel it because your body has gone numb.

Winter fashion has got to be a myth because there is no way women can get away with wearing this gorgeous outfits without freezing to death.

You're trying to keep warm with ripped jeans and exposed feet?! Not in these parts!

You’re trying to keep warm with ripped jeans and exposed feet?! Not in these parts!

Okay, at least this one's got gloves and boots, but the wind is totally gonna blow that sweater off you!

Okay, at least this one’s got gloves and boots, but the wind is totally gonna blow that sweater off you!

Smiling, but your fingers are crying!

Smiling, but your fingers are crying!

It’s not possible to be chic every day during the torturous winter.

This picture pretty much sums it up:

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